Thursday, April 17, 2014

I Was Torn

I was torn on what to write about today, but not as bad as these guy's pants.  Honestly, I had no idea what to write about today, so I decided on a pun instead.  I love puns.  By the way, the picture below is of actor Matt Lanter, who it appears does not wear underwear.  I find that pretty sexy.

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Lament on Shaving

First of all, I love a man who keeps his body hair natural, or at least trimmed.  A hairless man can be very sexy, but I prefer a little fur.  I can handle, and actually quite prefer, a shaved scrotum, but please leave the bush alone, except maybe for a minor trim if it looks like a jungle down there.  The only men who look remotely okay like that are muscular men without any body fat at all.  The truth is though I find pubic hair very sexy.  I find chest hair very sexy.  I even find a furry butt to be sexy.  My thought is that manscaping can be okay in moderation, but too much can just end up looking silly.

With that being said, I despise shaving my face every morning.  I don't look good with scruff and it feels so weird to me.  Now I will admit there are a lot of men that look very good with a beard or scruff.  I know one friend of mine who looks pretty damn sexy with some scruff.  Since I don't, I shave everyday, unless I am not planning to go anywhere or do anything.  Very rarely do I leave the house without shaving.  I've also never liked using an electric razor, so I shave the old fashioned way like in the picture above.  And as much as I hate shaving, I shave every day.  Sometimes I'm in the shower and think, "Do I have to?"  The answer is always yes.  I could never go to school without shaving.  It would be unthinkable to me.  So as much as I hate it, I still shave every day.

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Hope Springs Eternal

       Heav'n from all creatures hides the book of fate,
All but the page prescrib'd, their present state:
From brutes what men, from men what spirits know:
Or who could suffer being here below?
The lamb thy riot dooms to bleed today,
Had he thy reason, would he skip and play?
Pleas'd to the last, he crops the flow'ry food,
And licks the hand just rais'd to shed his blood.
Oh blindness to the future! kindly giv'n,
That each may fill the circle mark'd by Heav'n:
Who sees with equal eye, as God of all,
A hero perish, or a sparrow fall,
Atoms or systems into ruin hurl'd,
And now a bubble burst, and now a world.

       Hope humbly then; with trembling pinions soar;
Wait the great teacher Death; and God adore!
What future bliss, he gives not thee to know,
But gives that hope to be thy blessing now.
Hope springs eternal in the human breast:
Man never is, but always to be blest:
The soul, uneasy and confin'd from home,
Rests and expatiates in a life to come.

       Lo! the poor Indian, whose untutor'd mind
Sees God in clouds, or hears him in the wind;
His soul, proud science never taught to stray
Far as the solar walk, or milky way;
Yet simple nature to his hope has giv'n,
Behind the cloud-topt hill, an humbler heav'n;
Some safer world in depth of woods embrac'd,
Some happier island in the wat'ry waste,
Where slaves once more their native land behold,
No fiends torment, no Christians thirst for gold.
To be, contents his natural desire,
He asks no angel's wing, no seraph's fire;
But thinks, admitted to that equal sky,
His faithful dog shall bear him company.

The above poem is merely a section of a much longer poem, "An Essay on Man" by Alexander Pope.  Line 19 is probably the most famous and oft quoted piece of Pope's writing, "Hope springs eternal in the human breast."  

The phrase "Hope springs eternal" is what drew me to this poem.  I think it is a great illustration of the sheer tenacity of the human spirit.  It tells us that it is human nature to always find fresh cause for optimism.  Yes, there are those who are always pessimistic, or often pessimistic, but for those who choose optimism there are many more opportunities.  As long as you have faith that you will persevere and and hope for a better tomorrow, hope will spring eternal.  Pope’s “Hope springs eternal in the human breast” does not just encompass one single individual but instead is a concise treatise on the human condition.

The essence of hope itself is that wonderful blessing/curse that truly makes human beings the most intelligent and emotional creature that we are.  Its existence provides us with the very basis of living.  What does our existence amount to without the hope for a better tomorrow or expectation of things to come?

Hope is a wonderful thing.  Each morning we are filled with hope for the day.  But then also at the end of the day, hope can be a devastating thing.  For example, you spent all day hoping that your beloved would phone as he promised you but as you lay your head on your pillow, you are left with the emptiness of an unrealized hope.  However, we merely need to renew our hope for the next day and the day after.  We should never lose hope.

I was speaking to a friend last night of the hope of finding a man in my life.  I refuse to give up on that hope.  I believe that someday it will happen.  It is that hope/expectations that truly differentiates humans from the animal world around us.  For what is a life without hope?

About the Poem
The Essay on Man is a philosophical poem, written, characteristically, in heroic couplets, and published between 1732 and 1734. Pope intended it as the centerpiece of a proposed system of ethics to be put forth in poetic form: it is in fact a fragment of a larger work which Pope planned but did not live to complete. It is an attempt to justify, as Milton had attempted to vindicate, the ways of God to Man, and a warning that man himself is not, as, in his pride, he seems to believe, the center of all things. Though not explicitly Christian, the Essay makes the implicit assumption that man is fallen and unregenerate, and that he must seek his own salvation.

The "Essay" consists of four epistles, addressed to Lord Bolingbroke, and derived, to some extent, from some of Bolingbroke's own fragmentary philosophical writings, as well as from ideas expressed by the deistic third Earl of Shaftsbury. Pope sets out to demonstrate that no matter how imperfect, complex, inscrutable, and disturbingly full of evil the Universe may appear to be, it does function in a rational fashion, according to natural laws; and is, in fact, considered as a whole, a perfect work of God. It appears imperfect to us only because our perceptions are limited by our feeble moral and intellectual capacity.

Epistle I, which the above poem is from, concerns itself with the nature of man and with his place in the universe; Epistle II, with man as an individual; Epistle III, with man in relation to human society, to the political and social hierarchies; and Epistle IV, with man's pursuit of happiness in this world.  Considered as a whole, the Essay on Man is an affirmative poem of faith: life seems chaotic and patternless to man when he is in the midst of it, but is in fact a coherent portion of a divinely ordered plan. In Pope's world God exists, and he is beneficent: his universe is an ordered place. The limited intellect of man can perceive only a tiny portion of this order, and can experience only partial truths, and hence must rely on hope, which leads to faith. Man must be cognizant of his rather insignificant position in the grand scheme of things: those things which he covets most — riches, power, fame — prove to be worthless in the greater context of which he is only dimly aware. In his place, it is man's duty to strive to be good, even if he is doomed, because of his inherent frailty, to fail in his attempt.

Monday, April 14, 2014


I have come to believe that a great teacher is a great artist and that there are as few as there are any other great artists. Teaching might even be the greatest of the arts since the medium is the human mind and spirit.
John Steinbeck

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Do Not Be Anxious

    "Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? Therefore do not be anxious, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

   "Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble."

Matthew 6:25-34

Sadly, life is filled with anxiousness.  No matter how much we try to avoid it, there is always something to worry about.  For me the week before last, it was our drama club production and would everything go well.  This last week brought a whole new set of worries.  Would I ever figure out how to make this DVD of the play?  Would my friend forgive me for the miscommunication we had?  But those were trivial worries.  I had a bad week, but it turned out well in the end.  My friend forgave me; I figured out how to make he DVD; and the play was a success.  I had faith that all would be okay and things would work out, but yet I was still anxious over these things.

Truthfully, my worries are trivial in comparison to many of the issues that friends of mine face.  I have a friend that was laid off from his job unexpectedly.  I also have a friend who's boyfriend suddenly wanted a break, but won't explain why.  I have another friend who began dialysis a few weeks ago and is expecting to go back to work tomorrow, and I hope he has recovered from his surgery and is doing well with his dialysis treatments.  I have another who recently lost her best friend.  I am anxious about them and want to do all that I can to help, but there is not much I can do right now but lend my support and prayers.

I have another friend who has pancreatic cancer and is going through another round of chemotherapy. She has survived longer than anyone had ever expected her to, and yet she still comes to work and teaches each day.  She is the most inspirational person I have ever known.  She never complains, and most people don't know just how sick she really is.  Some don't know she is sick at all.  She takes life in stride, and she has put her faith in God and carries on.  Through her, God rewards all who know her, because to know her is to be inspired by her.

When I think of all these worries and all the problems my friends have, and I could name a myriad of other problems, I realize that those who are truly good people, even those who are either not devout Christians or are not Christians at all, will have their reward and be taken care of.  I believe in a universal good, for me that is God, for others it is something else, and for others it does not have a name, but it's that force of universal good that provides for us.  There is the saying that good guys come in last, but truthfully, though the good guys may have hard times, they always come in first, because it is the reward in the hereafter that is the true reward.

My mother is often a miserable person. (I love her dearly so let me explain what I mean by that.). She suffers from depression and fibromyalgia.  She's in constant pain and she worries about everything, including the state of her gay son's soul.  It weighs heavily on her mind, and she can't let it go.  She's known for ten years now but cannot reconcile the thought.  I'm not sure she ever will.  We keep our "don't ask, don't tell, don't bring it up" policy and it works as a weary peace, yet it still bothers her on a daily basis.  With her problems and worries, and like I said, she's always worried about something, she would be so much better off of she just put her faith in God and let him sort out the mess.

For most of my life, I have been a worrier like she is, but I made a change in my life.  I realized that some things you just can't prevent happening.  They are going to happen, and there is nothing you can do about it.  Some of those things will be wonderful, some won't be.  However, I put my faith in God that things would work out for the best, that it would work out the way God intended. As long as I had faith that God had a plan for me, and that sometimes that plan included bumps along the way, I would not worry so much.  I simply put my faith in God.  The same thing happened when I came out to myself as a gay man.  I prayed and I meditated on the issue, and I firmly believe that God let me know that it was okay, that he loves me no matter what, and that it was all part of his plan. I firmly believe that being a gay man is part of God's plan for me.  Though it may sound cliche in the gay community now, it does get better.  If God had wanted to give up on me, he would have when I attempted suicide at age 16, but he had greater plans. I do my best to live up to His expectations.

So whatever your worries may be, whatever bumps in the road of life you may be facing, please remember that God has a plan for each of us.  We need to pray that we follow his plan, and have faith that all will work out the way that God intended.  I have had hard times in my life, but God has never failed to get me through them.  He won't fail to get you through the tough times either. 

Saturday, April 12, 2014

Moment of Zen: Forgiveness

My friend did find it in his heart to forgive me.  All of the things I was stressing about on Thursday turned out pretty well Friday. So, even though it's been a rather crappy week, the weekend is shaping up to be much better.

Friday, April 11, 2014

I'd Rather...

I'd rather just stay in bed and not have to face the world today, but hopefully, it will be a better day today.  I have some hope that I may be forgiven.  That's what great friends do, they support each other and forgive one another when one messes up.